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Batter UP!
I want to give you a game-changing exercise to help you take control of your mind. I’ve seen this work with anxiety, depression, imposter syndrome, and even those pesky voices in our heads. There is a little bit of a build-up for this exercise but bear with me. If I...
My Thoughts, God’s Thoughts: A Christian Counselor’s Perspective
How do we distinguish between “our” thoughts and “God’s” thoughts? 1 Corinthians 2:16 states: “But we have the mind of Christ”. If we have the mind of Christ then how can we tell if a thought is our own or His? I would like to offer this as a possibility to begin...
3 Things You Can Do to Help with Anxiety
3 Things You Can Do To Help With Anxiety You have more bills to pay than money coming in. Your kids have gotten on your last nerve. You feel as though you work all of the time and never get a chance to relax. Even when you are not working it always feels like...
Marriage in Trouble? Try This Handholding Exercise to Help!!!
Marriage in Trouble? Try This Handholding Exercise to Help!!! A small disclaimer: The principles work the same. You can substitute your significant other in the place of husband or wife if you like (i.e. not married). From my experience helping couples in counseling...
A Therapist’s Crystal Ball: Predicting Divorce And How to Stop It
To take a vow and intimately share your life with a partner is a beautiful thing. Unfortunately, love and words are not enough to sustain a marriage across a lifetime. Marriage requires an incredible amount of work between two people. There are signs of fracture that...
6 Simple but Effective Couples Therapy Exercises You Can Practice at Home
6 Simple but Effective Couples Therapy Exercises You Can Practice at Home It may seem as if the relationship and marital problems are unresolvable at times, but often that's only without help. Couples therapy is 75% effective because of the knowledge the...
How to Heal From Infidelity: Tips for Healing Yourself and Your Relationship
How to Heal From Infidelity: Tips for Healing Yourself and Your Relationship Did your spouse cheat? Do you need to know how to heal from infidelity in a marriage? According to statistics, seventy-five percent of marriages are known to survive infidelity if the...
6 Factors to Consider When Choosing Marriage Counselors
6 Factors to Consider When Choosing Marriage Counselors When your marriage is on the rocks, one of the first things that you should do is look into marriage counselors. Even if your marriage is in good condition it can be helpful to have a check-in with a...
How to Fix a Broken Relationship with Your Partner
How to Fix a Broken Relationship with Your Partner It’s been a few years now, but I got my wife a mandolin (not the instrument, but the kitchen device used for slicing) for her birthday one year. We decided to test it out. Me being the cautious husband decided I...
3 Things to Heal a Broken Heart and Stay Married
3 Things to Heal a Broken Heart and Stay Married Have you ever broken a bone? I fractured my tibia during the freshman year of high school, while playing football. I remember that we thought that I had just pulled a muscle. After a few weeks had passed my dad told...
Improve Your Relationship by Learning How to Listen Empathically
Improve Your Relationship by Learning How to Listen Empathically Wouldn’t it be amazing to have your partner not only listen to you but help you feel heard and understood? What if there was a technique you could learn yourself that would help your relationships? You...
Contempt in Your Relationship? Here’s How to Change it
Contempt in Your Relationship? Here's How to Change it What is Contempt? Merriam-Webster’s online dictionary defines contempt as “the act of despising: the state of mind of one who despises” or “a lack of respect or reverence for something”. Wow, that first...
3 Signs It Is Time to Go See a Marriage Counselor
3 Signs It Is Time to Go See a Marriage Counselor No one ever said marriage was perfect, and yet, many once-happy couples are surprised when their relationship begins to hit some major speedbumps. There are a lot of different reasons why a couple may need to...
5 Common Myths About Marriage Counseling
Did you have an argument with a spouse or partner? Are you thinking about going to counseling? Learn the common myths of marriage counseling first.